Nicole + Ben
I’m Nicole, my S.O.’s name is Ben, and I am allergic to gluten, dairy, and soy. We both live in Los Angeles and have been together for 2.5 years. This is not Ben’s first experience with food allergies, he has his own, so he has always been allergy-aware!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: He let me pick the restaurant for our first date, so I purposely chose somewhere I’d have no problem ordering. I have no shame and take pride in my allergies! So when it came to ordering, I told him what I couldn’t have and he was so chill about it! On those first few dates we ordered everything gluten-free & dairy-free and split… but then once we were super comfortable with each other we started ordering separately and eating whatever we wanted as individuals!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I WANT Ben to eat all of my allergens!! He just can’t kiss me after.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Ben LOVES buying me my favorite glute and dairy-free treats. Especially if I’m sad or PMSing- he runs to the store and always comes home with my favorites.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Craig’s
Describe your partner in 3 words: Caring, supportive, and loyal
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Honestly, our food allergies don’t really play a huge part in our relationship! We’ve both had our allergies for so long that it’s just a part of our lives. and I think that would be both of our advice- live your life in a way that allergies don’t interrupt it!”
Where to find Nicole: Insta: @
Phil + Sirena
I’m Phil, my S.O.’s name is Sirena, and I manage Eosinophilic Esophagitis with gluten and dairy triggers and a shellfish allergy. We both live in Boston and have been together for 5 years. Sirena does not have any allergies and this was her first experience with allergies.
How did you meet: Mutual Friends
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: As I remember it, on our first date we planned to meet at a bar before going to a concert. I got there before her (very punctual) and saw they had gluten-free beer. I excitedly ordered one and asked the bartender to quickly pour it into a glass instead of the can (because this was my first date with these food issues and I didn’t want to bring it up immediately at the time). Sirena got to the bar and right away she asked me what beer I ordered because she wanted to order the same one and I got all flustered and was like “uhhh, oh i don’t know, just like a random light beer”. Smooth as silk. Later in the night at the very end of our date, my EpiPen I carry for my Shellfish allergy fell out of my pocket and she saw it fall and roll across the room and thought it was a vape or something. So I had to tell her about the shellfish allergy then, and I am pretty sure that is when I told her about my Eosinophilic Esophagitis as well. We went on another date the next day and the rest is history!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: When we’re together, she eats 100% gluten-free and dairy free most of the time. But, if she is craving something with gluten or dairy in it, I always tell her to go for it!
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: It’s hard to pinpoint one specific thing because she does so many. She’s become a pro with gluten and dairy-free knowledge. She’s adapted recipes, educated friends and family, and speaks up at restaurants sometimes before I can! She makes living with food restrictions feel totally normal!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: La Familia Giorgio
Describe your partner in 3 words: Funny, caring, and best-friend
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “It’s fun to adapt all of your favorite meals to be allergy-friendly when cooking at home! When eating out, communicate about their allergens well and ask the right questions when necessary.”
Where to find Phil: Spokin: @philhatesgluten, Insta: @philhatesgluten
Kayla + Andrew
I’m Kayla, my S.O.’s name is Andrew, and I manage celiac and tree nut allergies and am also lactose intolerant. We both live in Morristown, New Jersey, and we’ve been together for 6 years. This is Andrew’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: On an app! Hinge! We actually met years ago at a bar, where we chatted but he never asked for my number! Like… WHAT!? So when he came up on hinge I knew I was interested and I also had an idea of who he was. I immediately swiped yes.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I assume before our first date but he must have been so okay with it that the moment doesn’t even stand out in my mind.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We chatted for a bit before our first date and I likely told Andrew beforehand to help him pick a restaurant or bar to meet at. We just got drinks on our first date at a wine bar so it wasn’t a stressful allergy situation.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I never asked him to but he chose to on his own. We eat fully gluten-free and tree nut-free at our house. We only buy a minimal amount of dairy and I take a lactaid so that’s okay. When we go out if he wants to eat gluten that is his chance but 9 out of 10 times he’ll still order the gluten-free dish so we can share!
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: 2 things! 1) When he goes to the grocery store he comes home with a bunch of allergy friendly products to surprise me! He likes to find new things for us to try and some we end up absolutely loving (like Trader Joe’s frozen gluten-free pancakes). It’s so thoughtful and I love it. 2) If he knows I’m not having the best day or if he just wants to surprise me he comes home with a surprise allergy friendly latte. He knows they’re my favorite. It makes my day every time!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Bin 14, Grand vin, End of elm
Describe your partner in 3 words: Accommodating, accepting, and loving
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Have an open mind and do research on good allergy-friendly restaurants!”
Where to find Kayla: Spokin: @kaylacappiello, Insta: @kaylacappiello
Lauren + Brett
I’m Lauren, my S.O.’s name is Brett, and I manage wheat, dairy, egg, sesame, soy, buckwheat, and peanut allergies. We both live in Chicago, and we’ve been together for 6 years. This is not Brett’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met on a dating app and had been messaging for a while and then we coincidentally ran into each other at a bar. We figured out that we had mutual friends and soon went on our first date to a Cub’s game!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: After our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I was actually diagnosed with multiple food allergies pretty shortly after we met! He has stuck with me and supported me throughout my food allergy and chronic illness journey.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: No, but we don’t keep most of my allergens in our apartment.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Calls the restaurant every time I order delivery to talk to the manager about my allergies!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Ema
Describe your partner in 3 words: Supportive, caring and the best dog dad
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Understand that living with food allergies is stressful for your partner, so do whatever you can to help them and be patient. Try not to put them in situations that are uncomfortable for them, if possible.”
Where to find Lauren: Spokin: @lesswithlaur, Insta: @
Alyssa + Connor
I’m Alyssa, my S.O.’s name is Connor, and I manage a peanut allergy. We both live in Chicago, and we’ve been together for over 10 years! This is Connor’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: In 10th grade biology class. We are high school sweethearts!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: This would have been back in 2012, so I’m having trouble remembering exactly, but I imagine I told him over text message! He swears he hasn’t eaten peanut butter since.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: I had Connor practice using expired auto injectors so he knew what to do in an emergency. He also attended the 2022 FACES Food Allergy Conference with me!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens on days we’re going to see each other.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: I could not have asked for a more patient, understanding, or accommodating partner to spend the rest of my life with! Connor is the biggest supporter of All Things Allergies, and has never once made me feel like an inconvenience. But I think the sweetest thing he does is ever so gently guiding me away from nuts at the grocery store, or jokingly shield my eyes when a Reese’s commercial comes on TV. It’s these little things that helped me know he was the one.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Ciccio Mio
Describe your partner in 3 words: Selfless, loyal, and gentle
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Odds are, the person with food allergies is going to feel self conscious or uncomfortable standing up for themselves at some point. Don’t be afraid to help advocate for them! Speak up around friends and family, call the restaurant ahead of time, or take the lead on requesting an ingredient list. I see how exhausting food allergies can be, and I want to help relieve some of that burden.”
Where to find Alyssa: Spokin: @alyssabauder, Insta: @allthingsallergies
Lindsay + Dan
I’m Lindsay, my S.O.’s name is Dan, and I am anaphylactic to tree nuts and gluten-free from an autoimmune disease. We both live in Tampa, FL, and we’ve been together for 5 years. This is Dan’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Hinge!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Our second date when we went out to dinner!
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: At the time, I was only allergic to tree nuts. Dan heard how I ordered and how I even made sure the server was that aware my allergy was severe.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: No, but he started to see how I would read labels or order from allergy friendly brands and started to ask more questions and learn for himself. He even started following allergy accounts on social media!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: Yes and no. Dan told me from the beginning that he doesn’t really enjoy tree nuts, so we never had them around the house and he never ordered a dish at a restaurant that was unsafe for me. Gluten is a relatively new trigger for me, so we’re both learning in real time how to handle it. If Dan does have gluten, he knows he has to brush his teeth and wash his hands!
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Whenever we plan on traveling or going out to eat he ALWAYS finds restaurants that look safe or have other allergy reviews before I do (thanks, Spokin!). Even though I’ve been allergic to tree nuts my entire life, when I was diagnosed with Lupus in 2022, I was terrified to dine out. I used to be really confident at restaurants and knew how to stick up for myself, knowing what foods were safe or what I needed to avoid. That year I was really able to lean on him to build my confidence back up.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Cali, Bistecca, and True Food Kitchen
Describe your partner in 3 words: Spontaneous, thoughtful, and supportive
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be open to trying new foods in restaurants—some of the best meals come from places you wouldn’t expect!”
Where to find Lindsay: Spokin: @lfrost5, Insta: @linds_frost
Molly + Mike
I’m Molly, my S.O.’s name is Mike, and I manage celiac. We both live in Philadelphia and we’ve been together for 5 years, going on 6! This is Mike’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met in college working together at our summer job in Sea Isle City. Both of our families have vacation homes there, and he and I both moved there for our summer breaks during college. At first we were just friends. We hung out all the time and I liked him, but I knew we would be going back to school in the fall. Fast forward to the next summer, and we no longer worked together. He got a job at a popular bar in Sea Isle that my friends and I went to practically every night. We reconnected and have been together ever since!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We met working at a pizza place in college and he knew right away because I didn’t eat most of the food at work! He quickly found out that I am a foodie when I would make him drive 40 mins just for a dedicated fryer.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: He can eat celiac, as long as there is no cross-contamination
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Two major things—we cook mostly only gluten-free meals, and he is really good with eating whatever it is I can! When we are out to eat, he will usually order his meal gluten-free, so we can split meals or so that I can at least try his!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: SouthHouse
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, handsome, and funny
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be open minded to trying new things.”
Where to find Molly: Spokin: @mollysgfplate, Insta: @mollys.gf.plate
Blake + Jackie
I’m Blake, my S.O.’s name is Jackie, and I manage a tree nut allergy. We both live in Denver, and we’ve been together for 7 years. This is Jackie’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Met at Kincade’s in Chicago!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: After our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We were at a Chinese restaurant and I told the waitress. That’s when she found out!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked her not to eat my allergens if they’re with me
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: She always tells the waiter that I have nut allergy when we go out to eat, and she makes sure my Epi-Pens are current.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Topo Gigio
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, fun, and patient
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Over communicate their food allergy when out to eat! “
Where to find Blake: Spokin: @blakesorensen, Insta: @
Lauryn + Jimmy
I’m Lauryn, my S.O.’s name is Jimmy, and I have gluten, dairy, soy, corn, hazelnut, peanut, flaxseed, and pineapple allergies. We both live in Austin, TX, and we’ve been together for over 10 years. This is Jimmy’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met in class at university in Los Angeles.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: When we were picking a restaurant I shared with him that I was gluten-free (he had heard of it before) so we looked for places that specifically labeled their menu. Over the years of being together and living together, he’s become an expert!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: We would go to the grocery store together and I’d show him how I read ingredient lists and look for certifications.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: We don’t keep allergens in our home, but he does occasionally when we’re out to eat.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Keeps our home allergen-free and goes out of his way to cook amazing allergy-friendly food for me! He also never ever makes me feel bad that we can’t go to certain restaurants.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Le Bleu
Describe your partner in 3 words: Loving, supportive, and adventurous
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Call restaurants in advance and read reviews to find safe date night spots. Your S.O. will appreciate your extra efforts so they can have a great experience wherever you take them. Also, Lauryn created allergy cards that have been awesome to bring to restaurants.”
Where to find Lauryn: Spokin: @plantivore, Insta: @laurynemilia
Lizzie + Ryan
I’m Lizzie, my S.O.’s name is Ryan, and I am anaphylactic to peanuts and severely allergic to shellfish and tree nuts. We both live in Washington D.C., and we’ve been together for almost 5 years! This is Ryan’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: A frat party!!! (Truly a diamond in the rough).
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Our first date was at Chipotle and he insisted we go somewhere nicer, but I insisted we do Chipotle (because it’s a safe restaurant for me and I could just focus on getting to know him). I told him on the date that I have “some food allergies” (totally underselling it), and then when we cooked together later that day I told him! He had lots of questions, and we talked it all out over a bottle of wine.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: He pretty much listened to everything I told him and then did his own research as well (major green flag)! He learned how to use my Auvi-Q and he knows what signs to look for regarding when to use it.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: Our apartment is allergen-free. He’s allowed to eat whatever he wants outside our apartment, but he can’t kiss me for 2 days if it’s something I’m allergic to, so he’s pretty much just avoids all my allergens. He says he has “sympathy allergies”!
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Ryan is the most compassionate partner I could ever ask for. Whether he’s reading nutrition labels or scrolling Spokin for restaurant recommendations, he always makes sure that I’m safe. The thing he does that makes me feel the most loved is when he advocates for my needs, like calling restaurants ahead of time and speaking to management once we arrive. Going out to eat rarely occurs without immense anxiety, and he makes the experience feel enjoyable and normal.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Osteria Morini
Describe your partner in 3 words: Heart, light, and home
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “The most important thing is truly listening to the person who has the allergies. They will be better at analyzing risk and deciding if they are comfortable, and remember, your opinion comes second on this!”
Where to find Lizzie: Spokin: @lizziepic, Insta: @the.good.vibes.teacher
Allie + Graham
I’m Allie, my S.O.’s name is Graham, and I manage allergies to gluten, dairy, shellfish, avocados, and some tree nuts. We both live in New York City, and we’ve been together for 6 years. This is Graham’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: At a college party!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: After our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I brought them up on our first date to add context as to why I hounded the waitress with questions when ordering. Lol.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: He caught on to my habit of calling restaurants to vet their menus and allergy precautions. Soon enough, he started doing this on my behalf!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him to avoid eating my anaphylactic-related allergens.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: A couple months into dating, I had an allergic reaction that required me to go to the hospital. He quickly sprung into action to take me to get medical attention, called in sick to work, and stayed by my side until we were able to go home. Ever since then, he’s been my biggest advocate and actively avoids keeping my allergens in our home.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Nami Nori
Describe your partner in 3 words: Thoughtful, intelligent, and hilarious
What’s your significant other’s best tip(s) for dating someone with allergies: “Try to become a part of their world—for example, start thinking about what someone with allergies would be able to eat at a specific place. Get familiar with labeling and reading ingredient lists. Don’t assume something is okay to eat and don’t be afraid to ask questions on their behalf. It’s better to be safe than sorry. “
Where to find Allie: Spokin: @alutin, Insta: @the_edible_table
Laura + Connor
I’m Laura, my S.O.’s name is Connor, and I manage celiac. We both live in Pittsburgh, and we’ve been together for 6 years. Connor’s mom is allergic to gluten, and she was actually the person who noticed my issues and suggested I get tested for celiac!
How did you meet: We met in the radio station at college. He had a show while I usually sat there between classes. One day he asked me if I wanted to go on it with him. I did, and we had great banter so we started to hang out more.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: After our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: His mom suggested that I get tested for celiac and when it was positive, I told him.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: He uses Spokin, he always calls ahead to restaurants, and he researched gluten-free alternatives and recipes.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens when he’s with me.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He never cooks with gluten within our home and any time he has a recipe he wants to try, he makes it 100% gluten-free. He also checks the ingredients on anything he buys— sauces, chips, candies, etc. that might have hidden gluten.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Umami
Describe your partner in 3 words: Musical, detail-oriented, and thoughtful
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies:” Always double check with them that they are going to be able to find something to eat. It is important to remember that if the two of you are out and suddenly get hungry, the closest few options might not always be safe. Anytime we go out (without a specific plan to eat) he always checks in with me that I either have food in my purse or that we both know of safe restaurants in the neighborhood in case we need to stop somewhere.”
Where to find Laura: Spokin: @gluttenous, Insta: @gluttenous
Ashley + Kat
I’m Ashley, my S.O.’s name is Kat, and I manage celiac and an oyster allergy. We both live in Los Angeles, and we’ve been together for 5 years. This is Kat’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met on Tinder!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We met online like all modern day romances start. During our initial conversations, I mentioned that donuts (specifically gluten-free) were my favorite foods and explained my allergies from there.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: Dates to gluten-free bakeries and other gluten-free establishments
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: She sometimes eats gluten, but more often than not she’ll order all her food gluten-free knowing I like to share food. We also only cook gluten-free stuff at home.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: She’s the best ride or die food tourism partner. We will go on vacations just for the gluten-free food. I plan all our vacations including every restaurant for each meal. She’s just pumped to be there and support me and always has the best attitude.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Rice Sushi, Thunderbolt, and Scopa
Describe your partner in 3 words: Loving, sociable, and attractive
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “You pick the restaurant.”- my wife. And alway say yes to stopping at a gluten-free bakery nearby, even if we’ve already eaten.
Where to find Ashley: Spokin: @andglutenfree, Insta: @andglutenfree
Olivia + Christian
I’m Olivia, my S.O.’s name is Christian, and I manage milk, egg, peanut, tree nut (except for almonds), and some soy product allergies. I live in Philadelphia, and my S.O. lives in Lancaster, PA. We’ve been together for 2 years. This is Christian’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: I became friends with his cousin who goes to my college in our first year, and he asked her for help with a calculus problem. I did it instead, and he asked for my number to say thank you. It was history from there!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I texted him, “Fun fact: I have some food allergies that are pretty severe!” I answered any questions that he had after that.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I am fine with him eating my allergens while with me, but he makes sure to clean his hands after eating.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He calls new restaurants to see if I can eat there so that I don’t have to! He also makes sure to clean his hands, and while we are with his family, he always reminds them to do so as well after eating.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Speckled Hen
Describe your partner in 3 words: Listener, passionate, and encouraging
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “I think the best tip for dating someone with allergies is to be patient and really take your time to know and understand their dietary needs. Be meticulous about asking restaurants for accommodations, have a checklist of what needs to be changed, and always ask your partner if you’re unsure of something. The smallest things can go a long way in making sure your partner feels safe and secure while enjoying their food.”
Where to find Olivia: Spokin: @livwong, Insta: @liv.
Arielle + Jordan
I’m Arielle, my S.O.’s name is Jordan, and I manage celiac and mango and kiwi allergies. We both live in South Florida, and we’ve been together for almost 6 years! This is Jordan’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Dating app!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I was very clear that I couldn’t have wheat/gluten and had other allergies. He was totally okay with it and had me pick where we would go on our first date so I felt safe.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat mango and kiwi on days he would see me. He could have gluten and wheat, but no cross-contamination or sharing utensils
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Without me asking, while we were on vacation, he called a restaurant to ask about their gluten-free menu and if they have any cross-contamination within their kitchen. Whenever we go out to eat, he ALWAYS mentions my allergies and celiac to the waitstaff.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Houston’s or Burton’s
Describe your partner in 3 words: Thoughtful, generous, and compassionate
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Let them pick the restaurants at first. You should also learn about their allergies and do a lot of research so you can understand their needs and be helpful.”
Where to find Arielle: Spokin: @glutenfreegp, Insta: @
Esha + Shaun
I’m Esha, my S.O.’s name is Shaun, and I manage celiac, so I can’t eat anything with even trace amounts of gluten. We both live in Chicago, and we’ve been together for 7.5 years. This is Shaun’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Mutual friends in Chicago! We met once, I went back to Michigan, and we kept in touch on Snapchat and Instagram for the next month. We bonded over Drake, French bulldogs, and memes. After I officially moved to Chicago later that summer, we were inseparable. (Also he thought I was 22 on our first date, even though I was turning 26).
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Right when I was diagnosed with celiac. We were about 6 months into dating when I was diagnosed.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I texted him right after my doctor’s medical assistant told me over the phone. This was right after Christmas in 2016. When I saw him a few days later, he downloaded Novak Djokovic’s book (my favorite tennis player) which discussed how he improved his life by making significant dietary changes. It was so supportive.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: I showed him the Find Me Gluten Free app and Gluten Free Scanner (this was pre-Spokin), and he immediately downloaded both and started using them regularly.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: We weren’t living together at the time, but I asked him to not cook gluten at my place and to avoid cooking for me in his kitchen. But I didn’t ask him to avoid eating gluten, even when we dined out together.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He never complains about eating gluten-free most of the time or keeping a gluten-free kitchen. I know many couples use separate pots and pans, but Shaun has always agreed for our kitchen to be celiac safe and for me to cook 100% gluten-free meals. It’s so comforting knowing I can come home and feel safe.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Trivoli Tavern
Describe your partner in 3 words: The. Absolute. Best.
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: Call ahead before going out to eat to ensure the restaurant you pick can accommodate celiac and take appropriate cross-contact precautions. It’ll save your celiac partner so much frustration and will ensure you can both have a safe and delicious meal together.
Where to find Esha: Spokin: @gfreebasicb, Insta: @
Carlin + Anthony
I’m Carlin, my S.O.’s name is Anthony, and I manage allergies to peanut, tree nut, milk, sesame, and shrimp. We both live in Boston and we’ve been together for 6 months. This is Anthony’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Out at a bar!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I told him I worked at Spokin, explained what Spokin was, and he asked me if I had allergies myself, and then I explained to him!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: I had him watch the allergy scene in the Nancy Drew movie
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: Yes, I asked him not to eat peanuts or tree nuts when we’re together. I’m okay if he eats dairy, sesame, or shrimp, but I ask that he washes his hands and brushes his teeth afterwards, and avoid kissing me for a few hours.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: When we’re out to eat, sometimes I just totally write off things like a bread basket and he’ll ask a waiter about ingredients for me. My favorite example of this was the time he asked about movie theatre popcorn for me. I told him I’ve never had movie theatre popcorn, and he was adamant that I could eat it, so he asked and it turned out it was only made with oil and salt, so it was safe and we could share popcorn!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Lucia
Describe your partner in 3 words: Compassionate, smart, and dependable
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Let them pick the restaurants or approve the menus of places you suggest, especially for the first few dates, until you start to understand what is safest for them!”
Where to find Carlin: Spokin: @carlinhanley, Insta: @sweetlifeofcarlin
Kelsey + Evan
I’m Kelsey, my S.O.’s name is Evan, and I have allergies to peanuts, tree nuts, dairy, gluten, soy, lobster, crab, shrimp, kiwi, and banana, and oral allergy syndrome. We both live in New York City, and we’ve been together for 1 year. This is Evan’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Hinge!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I just told him! It’s best to be open, direct and honest! It’s a part of who I am, it’s a safety concern and it’s not something I am ashamed about!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: Further into dating I shared Spokin as a resource to find date and restaurant ideas!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I ask him to avoid all nuts when we are seeing each other because it is my most severe allergy. We take it case by case with other foods based on what we are comfortable with. Beyond that it’s up to him what he wants to avoid, but he has found that eating my diet is a bit healthier.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He is willing to eat what I eat out at restaurants so we can go splitsies! He also cooks for me with allergy-friendly recipes
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Bistango
Describe your partner in 3 words: Exuberant, considerate, and selfless
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Don’t do it! But in all seriousness, I recommend asking a lot of questions and doing research! Ask questions to your partner, service staff at restaurants, the internet, etc. More information is better! Plan surprise dinner dates as often as possible. Your SO will enjoy the spontaneity, but be ready to talk about the research you did and how the restaurant is allergy friendly. Spokin has helped me a lot in planning surprise dinner dates! Highly recommend to a fellow allergy S.O.!”
Where to find Kelsey: Spokin: @allergytravelr, Insta: @
Natascia + Adam
I’m Natascia, my S.O.’s name is Adam, and I am allergic to Tree nuts. We both live in Connecticut and we have been together for 5 years. Adam does not have any allergies and this was his first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Bumble and our first date was paint night. It was so fun.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: As soon as we started chatting and sharing about our lives, I let him know about my tree nut allergy and the severity of it.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: At the time I worked closely with FAACT and shared my experiences and knowledge with him.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens at all.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: They always read labels before eating anything and while grocery shopping. Also, they avoid my allergen entirely.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Nobu
Describe your partner in 3 words: Compassionate, hard-working, and thoughtful
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Take it very seriously and learn their medical plan.”
Where to find Natascia: Spokin: @natascias, Insta: @natascia.castro
Caitlin + Vincenzo
I’m Caitlin, my S.O.’s name is Vincenzo, and I manage Celiac. We both live in Long Island, NY, and we’ve been dating for 7 years and married for 2! This is Vincenzo’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: At the gym; our first date included a work out together!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I told him while I was ordering food on our first date as I had to ask many questions and had limited food options at the specific restaurant (my learned tip is to always be the one to choose the restaurant on your first date if you’re the one with allergies/diet restrictions!)
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him to avoid gluten or brush his teeth after eating gluten before a kiss.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He lets me choose the restaurant for every date night. He also will surprise me often with my favorite gluten-free desserts from nearby gluten-free bakeries!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Dark Horse Restaurant
Describe your partner in 3 words: Selfless, caring, and supportive
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Become educated as best as you can and always communicate with your partner. Help them advocate as needed, especially with your family who may need to be educated on cooking and preparing foods for someone with celiac disease or other allergies.”
Where to find Caitlin: Spokin: @gflongisland, Insta: @glutenfree__longisland
Lauren + Nathan
I’m Lauren, my S.O.’s name is Nathan, and I have celiac. We both live in Chicago, IL, and we’ve been together for 5 years. This is Nathan’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met at a bar while celebrating “White Linen Night” when we were both living in Houston, TX.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Nathan was trying to plan our first date and figure out where he should take me for dinner, so I had to let him know about my gluten-free diet.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: No, but he did his own research
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: No, but I asked him to clean out his mouth before kissing me if he was eating gluten.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He calls restaurants ahead of time to inquire about their cross-contact protocols and check if their gluten-free options are celiac safe.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Aba
Describe your partner in 3 words: Smart, generous, and optimistic
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Recognize the other feelings that come with having celiac disease or a food allergy, such as insecurity, anxiety, and guilt. Always be patient and kind.”
Where to find Lauren: Spokin: @silverl2, Insta: @living.against.the.grain
Grace + Cam
I’m Grace, my S.O.’s name is Cam, and I am allergic to dairy, eggs, tree nuts, sesame, kiwi fruit, and some seafood. We both live in Sydney, Australia, and we’ve been together for 5 years! This is not Cam’s first experience with food allergies, as he is also allergic to all nuts.
How did you meet: Schoolies (week-long holiday after finishing your final year of school)
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: He actually brought it up first! We were hanging out with a group of our friends and I had brought my own food to eat. They then decided to cook some pasta for everyone else there. This was the first time Cam had met my friends and me so he told them that he was allergic to nuts and if we could make something without nuts if possible. Then the conversation of allergies came up I told him I also have food allergies!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: No, I didn’t share any resources, but having food allergies himself, he already understood and knew all about allergies!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens if he’s with me
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: The nicest thing Cam does is show constant support and understanding of my food allergies and my feelings around them. I frequently feel overwhelmed and anxious about my food allergies, particularly when going out or to a new social situation. So having him always check in on me and help me prepare is very reassuring for me. For example, helping me cook food before going out or packing food with us in case there is no suitable food for me there.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Zushi
Describe your partner in 3 words: Caring, funny, and dependable
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: Be understanding and supportive. Ensure they always feel comfortable when deciding to eat somewhere as well as when you are eating out at someplace new or even a regular. Make sure they feel comfortable and safe the whole time they are eating.
Where to find Grace: Spokin: @gracemavrelis, Insta: @eating_out_with_food_allergies
Josh + Kalli
I’m Josh, my S.O. name is Kalli, and I am allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, tahini, and shellfish. We both live in Chicago, Illinois and have been together for 5 years. Kalli does not have any allergies but this is not her first experience with them.
How did you meet: A family member set us up
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before the waiter came on our first date Kalli asked Josh if he had any food allergies because she had friends with food allergies and runs an educational arts and crafts studio for children (many of whom have food allergies).
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked her not to eat my allergens if she’s are with me.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Kalli gave up peanut butter!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Armitage Alehouse and RPM for the ice cream sundae dessert.
Describe your partner in 3 words: Loving, supportive, and funny
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Sun butter will do the trick :)”
Where to find Josh: Spokin: @jbass12, Insta: @joshua_gb
Matt + Jenna
I’m Matt, my S.O.’s name is Jenna, and I have a tree nut and peanut allergy. We both live in Chicago and have been together for 8 years. Jenna does not have any allergies but this is not her first experience with them.
How did you meet: We met joining a club in college.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I honestly think I shared having a peanut allergy in an ice breaker during a class we were both in. A low pressure way so everyone knew.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: I taught her how to use an EpiPen!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked them not to eat my allergens on days we’re going to see each other
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: She’s pretty much given up eating all peanuts and tree nuts unless I’m traveling out of town. She even switched to Sunbutter training for the Chicago Marathon!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Girl and the Goat
Describe your partner in 3 words: My best friend
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Ask your SO with food allergies to explain their level of comfort/ caution around their allergens so everyone is on the same page and ask what you can do to help accommodate.”
Where to find Matt: Spokin: @mjflip19, Insta: @allergyeatschicago
Lindsey + Joshua
I’m Lindsey, my S.O.’s name is Joshua, and I am anaphylactic to peanuts and all tree nuts and have oral allergy syndrome to avocados, mushrooms, mangoes, and bananas. We both live in Phoenix, and we’ve been together for 7 months. This is Joshua’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Bumble! Our first date included going to a Mexican Steakhouse (which is a funny story—a fire dancer and a guy playing the electric guitar came out to our table and performed—neither of us knew what was happening so we laughed the entire time), had drinks at a bar next door, and went to a comedy show. From the first time we met, we’re always laughing together!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We met on Bumble and before our first date, I’d mentioned it was hard to find restaurants with my allergies. After explaining how severe my allergies are, how cautious I am in regard to restaurants, he went to work investigating. After researching, he sent me a list of restaurant options and date night activities. I’d never had someone be so thoughtful about my allergies before.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: Spokin! He loves reading through the app and my thesis paper about food allergies and epinephrine use.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens on days we’re going to see each other.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Like I said prior, he was extremely courteous when it came to planning our first date, he got rid of all nuts in his house, bought new pans, and is continuously supporting me getting back as a Spokin Ambassador!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: STK or Buck and Rider
Describe your partner in 3 words: Thoughtful, supportive, and admirable
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be patient, sensitive, and supportive!”
Where to find Lindsey: Spokin: @lindseymroper, Insta: @livfree_withlindsey
Hailey + Kody
I’m Hailey, my S.O.’s name is Kody, and I manage allergies to dairy, egg, chicken, tomato, and peanuts. We both live in Arizona, and we’ve been together for 15 years. This is Kody’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We meet at a store in a mall he was working at.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: After our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I went vegan a few years after we started dating. I had been vegetarian since we met and a vegan diet makes the most sense with all my allergies, paired with the fact that I wanted to become vegan for moral reasons. He not only supported it, but he went vegan for years himself and helped raised our son vegan for the first 9 years of his life with nothing but love and support.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: No, I never asked.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: My husband has learned how to navigate food labels, learned how to prepare vegan food, is always the first one to stick up for me when someone makes a lame vegan or food allergy joke, and is always looking for new vegan eats for me.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Pita Jungle
Describe your partner in 3 words: Home, safe, and love
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Just be supportive! There’s nothing that means more than love and support.”
Where to find Hailey: Spokin: @thedailyhailey, Insta: @
Hannah + Brandon
I’m Hannah, my S.O.’s name is Brandon, and I manage celiac, so I eat fully gluten-free and have to be very careful with cross-contamination. We both live in Chicago, and we’ve been together a little over 2 years. This is Brandon’s first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: Dating app
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We were talking about favorite foods and I explained my allergy and severity with cross-contamination.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I did not ask him to not eat my allergy, that being said now that we live together we keep the kitchen predominately gluten-free to avoid most cross-contamination. If he eats gluten, he knows to be cautious by washing his hands and brushing his teeth.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He always checks in on restaurants to make sure there are options I can eat at. He always wants to make sure I am comfortable, as navigating dining with celiac can be tricky.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Mia Francesca or Coda Di Volpe
Describe your partner in 3 words: Loving, supportive, and silly
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: Make sure you understand the allergy and offer to help in ways you can.
Where to find Hannah: Spokin: @rootintootingf, Insta: @rootintootin_gluten
Marlene + Ryan
I’m Marlene, my S.O.’s name is Ryan, and I manage celiac and nut, shellfish, and tomato allergies. I also have cross-allergic reactions to soy and stone fruit, due to a strong birch pollen allergy, as well as some environmental allergies like dust, mold and cat dander. We both live in Santa Barbara and we’ve been together for 7 years. This is not Ryan’s first experience with food allergies. He has allergies to mold, dust, and cat dander, and his mom had a strong nut allergy. He remembers having to help her use an epi pen in his childhood. He also suffered from asthma due to his environmental allergies as a kid.
How did you meet: Ryan is a sound engineer and works for bands on tour. I was friends with some musicians in the band he worked for. So when they came through my home town, I joined them on a week long tour and we travelled through Europe together. After that, Ryan kept reaching out to me every time he came through my home town. It didn’t take long until he kept coming back for me, not just for work.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Ryan and I met through friends on one of his business trips. My allergies naturally came up the moment we talked about where we all should go for food. I was surprised how knowledgeable he was about allergies. It was such a relief and made me feel comfortable around him immediately.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I explained to him which safety measures we had to take if he ate my allergens around me. (No kissing until he brushed his teeth!).
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: I really appreciate how he advocates for me. It can be so draining to constantly explain my allergies. If I get overwhelmed he steps in and takes over for me. I am so lucky he knows me and my allergies so well that he can do that!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Shojin
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, funny, and smart
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Listen.”
Where to find Marlene: Spokin: @theglutengram, Insta: @
Casey + Ben
I Casey, my S.O’s name is Ben, and I manage celiac. We are both from Colorado Springs and have been together for 2.5 years. This was Ben’s first experience with food allergies but, he was familiar with reading labels and does gluten-free baking, which was helpful!
How did you meet: We met on Hinge!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I included that I have celiac disease & eat gluten-free in my online dating profiles. And I also told him in person after we had gone on a few dates and wanted to go to a restaurant.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: My boyfriend would often look up celiac and gluten free information online and ask me random questions when he thought of something new after I told him I didn’t mind.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I told him I didn’t mind him eating gluten but that he couldn’t kiss me right after, so he will order gluten-free sometimes. When we moved in together, he decided he’d rather not eat much gluten than have to worry about accidentally making me sick. So he eats mostly gluten-free at home and mostly gluten when we’re out and about.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He will make any meals he cooks gluten-free so I can at least try it (and since he’s a good cook, I often use him as my meal prep).
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Marcos Coal Fired
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, funny, and adventurous
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: In his words, “it’s not that hard to date someone with dietary restrictions as long as you’re mindful and communicative.”
Where to find Casey: Spokin: @collegeceliackc, Insta: @
Lindiwe + Jake
I’m Lindiwe, my S.O.’s name is Jake, and I am allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, pine nuts, sesame, chickpeas, peas, beans, kiwi, pineapple, shellfish, and corn. We both live in the United Kingdom and have been together almost 2 years. Jake does not have any allergies and this was his first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met at work and became friends. I was a manager and he hated any alcohol apart from spirits and ciders. I like to say I taught him everything he knows about alcoholic beverages now (he then became a manager just before we started dating) we developed a friendship based on mutual interests, became crushes and one day he said he liked me and then we’ve been dating ever since.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We met at work. I talked about my allergies all of the time, but when we were thinking about dating I made my boundaries very clear. We talked about what would happen if he did eat some of my allergens, how I would like to be communicated with and any questions he had about it. Plus he learned how to administer an EpiPen at work so that helped!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: We have an open communication. I share my reels, posts, videos with him, plus tell him how things were handled in real life. He gets a lot of people with allergies at the bar he manages and it really helps having me as his girlfriend.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: There aren’t items with my allergens or may contain items permitted in my house. If he eats one of my allergens he needs to tell me. Open communication is key. However, he rarely, if ever, has eaten my allergies in the presence of me and usually he just doesn’t eat any of them. He would rather kiss me.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He takes pictures of ingredients so I know what is in the food he eats or the food he prepares for me.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Côte Brasserie or Wildwood restaurants
Describe your partner in 3 words: Funny, caring, and smart
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “The right person will care enough to be conscious of your allergies. Be patient with them, help them understand the real severity of your allergies and what that means. But if they couldn’t care less or are forgetful to the point of putting you in danger, they are not worth it.”
Where to find Lindiwe: Spokin: @theallergytable, Insta: @the.
Christina + Michal
I’m Christina, my S.O.’s name is Michal, and I manage celiac. I live in Brooklyn and Michal lives in Queens. We have been together for 1 year. Michal does not have any allergies and and this was his first experience with allergies.
How did you meet: We met on Bumble. I could tell right away that he was looking to build a relationship, and we clicked on our love of family and traveling. Right before our first date I actually stopped at Posh Pop because I was in the area. Did not share my treats I bought haha—couldn’t risk giving up a gluten-free donut on a first date.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We met on Bumble so as we were planning our first date I shared about celiac disease. He chose the area to meet, and let me pick the restaurant!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: He has actually done most of his research on his own, I didn’t share anything, but probably should!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: When we are together, I don’t mind if Michal eats gluten. Generally he will order a gluten-free option though so we can share! We also mostly go to 100% gluten free restaurants.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Michal is always open to me choosing the restaurants, and is supportive when I want to try new places when traveling. I always have a list planned and he is open to trying them all! On my birthday he researched gluten-free restaurants and made a reservation at Claro (100% gluten free). He is also very patient when I take photos haha. Whenever we eat at restaurants or his parents house, Michal always checks to make sure the food is gluten-free and safe from cross-contamination. He is also always so supportive and open to eating gluten-free. We had a great time when we stayed at the Inn Berlin, and he was very impressed with the food there!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Claro
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, adventurous, and caring
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be prepared to be a photographer haha. Also be prepared to compromise at times so you and your partner can both enjoy a date night.”
Where to find Christina: Spokin: @gflivingbk, Insta: @
Samantha + Jon
I’m Samantha, my S.O.’s name is Jon and I manage celiac. We both live in Hudson Valley and we have been together for 4.5 years. Jon does not have any food allergies but in college, but he worked in the dining hall and prepared food for the allergen-free station so he had some experience with it and knew the dangers of cross-contamination.
How did you meet: Dating app—thank you bumble!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: On our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I told him on our first date – we went out for drinks and I ordered a hard cider which was a good way to lead into the conversation about being gluten-free!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: He followed my Instagram page early on to learn about all my favorite safe places to eat.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I never asked him to avoid gluten with me, but we always made sure to keep things separate, clean surfaces, and wash hands, etc.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He agreed to having a 100% gluten-free wedding without hesitation!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: 110 Grill
Describe your partner in 3 words: Thoughtful, loving, and easy-going
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Find them a good, safe bakery so you can surprise them with treats they can eat!”
Where to find Samantha: Spokin: @gfreality, Insta: @glutenfreereality
Jess + Kyle
I’m Jess, my S.O.’s name is Kyle, and I am allergic to peanuts, tree , wheat, tomato, pineapple, seeds, fish, and shellfish. I am from Morgan Hill, CA and Kyle is from San Jose, CA. We have been together for 6 years. Kyle has a dairy allergy so this is not his first experience with allergies.
How did you meet: We met on tinder. My friend convinced me to just make a profile because it was fun getting to know people. I was a little skeptical at first given the reputation of the app. But then Kyle and I matched almost right away. He was the first and only person I connected with through the dating app! It feels like it was meant to be.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I told him over text as we were planning our first date. I don’t know the exact words, but I think it was something along the lines of “Hey by the way, I have several food allergies. Here’s a list of restaurants that I feel safest at that we can pick from.” He followed that up with “Oh cool, I have a milk allergy.” And I swear the excitement I felt when I read that was through the roof! I had no idea that he had a food allergy until that moment and I was so excited to think I’d be meeting with someone who got it. He’s told me since that he really liked that I had food allergies too.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: It’s a bit tricky in our situation since we have different allergies and often times we rely on each other’s allergens to eat out. I can’t do tomato, so if we’re at a pasta place (that has wheat-free pasta of course), I have to get the dish with the cheese sauce. On the flip side, he’s going to have to get the dish with the tomato sauce. So we don’t always avoid our allergens 100% around each other, but we do try to avoid when possible. I have so many more allergies that it doesn’t feel fair to me to limit him more than he already is. With that said, he never eats peanuts or nuts (my most severe) around me at all. He grew up with a family who ate dairy around him so he also is less nervous about proximity. Peanuts and certain nuts still make me nervous and he respects that, which is very appreciated.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: Whenever I’m nervous about being itchy, he’s always just a text or call away. In person, he knows my allergy anxiety tells that mean I’m worried about a reaction. He’ll ask me about how I’m doing and somehow it just makes me feel seen and cared for since I don’t have to go through it alone. He knows what it feels like and talks me through the anxiety with lots of care and love.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: The Old Spaghetti Factory
Describe your partner in 3 words: Sweet, funny, and caring
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be open to changing some habits for the sake of the one you love. Figuring out a list of ‘safe’ restaurants are helpful for date nights. And don’t be afraid to be adventurous within your means.”
Where to find Jess: Spokin: @nutfreejessica, Insta: @nutfreementality
Izzy + Justin
I’m Izzy, my S.O.’s name is Justin, and I am allergic to tree nuts, sesame, and salmon. We both live in New York City, and we’ve been together for 2 years. Justin does not have any food allergies, and this was his first experience with allergies.
How did you meet: On a teen tour in high school!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We were friends first on a teen tour so he knew from watching me order at a restaurant!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: Spokin!!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked them not to eat my allergens on days we’re going to see each other.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: He’s very understanding and always mindful of my allergies. He made a Spokin account and looks up restaurants for us to eat at without me asking!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Hillstone
Describe your partner in 3 words: Patient, kind, and funny
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Be patient and thoughtful with your partner. Find an allergy-friendly dessert place!!”
Where to find Izzy: Spokin: @izzytri12, Insta: @izzytrinin
Erica + Matt
I’m Erica, my S.O.’s name is Matt, and I manage Celiac and intolerances to dairy, egg, and beef. We both live in Phoenix, AZ, and we’ve been together for 13 years. Matt does not have any food allergies, and this was his first experience with allergies.
How did you meet: We met as friends and then circumstances changed and we decided to try dating and we were sort of inseparable since. He helped me start my brand and supported me when I wrote my first book and it kind of just exploded from there. He’s always so supportive and proud of my work in patient advocacy. And I’m supportive of whatever he wants to do. It’s so lovely to have each other’s back.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Because we were friends before we were together, he just knew that I ate differently. Once we started dating he saw all my GI appointments and how strict I was with cooking my food, ordering at restaurants and traveling.
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: It was actually when I started dating him that I wish I had a better resource for people like me, so that’s when I wrote my book and published it about living life with celiac disease—with a chapter on dating!
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: We live in a completely gluten-free house.
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: We made the commitment to live in a completely gluten-free house together from the first year we were together!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: Prado
Describe your partner in 3 words: Funny, caring, and talented
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “He always puts it into perspective for me ‘it’s just food’. He knows that it’s far more important for me to be safe and not get sick than him trying something unsafe.”
Where to find Erica: Spokin: @celiacandthebeast, Insta: @celiacandthebeast
Sam + Tyler
I’m Sam, my S.O.’s name is Tyler, and I have allergies to nuts, legumes, dairy, wheat, and some fruits and vegetables! We both live in Washington D.C., and we’ve been together for 11 months. Tyler does have some environmental and pet allergies, but this was his first experience with food allergies.
How did you meet: We met through our law school theater club! He was the stage manager for a comedy show the club was putting on that was abridged Shakespeare shows (I played Ophelia, from Hamlet). We then took a class together the next semester, and he stage managed the next show we put on (Cabaret! I was Sally). Midway through the rehearsal process, we decided to see what dating would be like!
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: We were friends first! At some sort of friendly gathering I explained my allergies to my friends. When we started dating, we had a conversation about what my food allergies would mean moving forward, but as friends it was fairly easy and natural!
Any resources you shared to explain food allergies: Possibly the peanut in saliva scientific study.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: For nuts, over 24+ hours of no kissing! For other allergens that are less severe for me, 4-6 hours, lots of water, and a ‘safe’ meal is our rule and seems to be working!
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: We cook a lot together—and that includes taking all of my food prep precautions and eating my allergy-friendly food with me. It really means a lot to have someone else on my team!
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: We love to order sushi from a local karaoke-restaurant combo called Wok n Roll.
Describe your partner in 3 words: Caring, silly, and hardworking
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: “Being positive! I’ve never viewed the fact that we don’t eat every single food as a limitation. I feel like our meals are a fun exploration—so having a good attitude and embracing the positivity around food is important!”
Where to find Sam: Spokin: @samsafeeats, Insta: @
Zoë + Paul
I’m Zoë, my S.O.’s name is Paul, and I have a peanut allergy and soy, wheat, and cane sugar/refined sugar intolerances. We both live in Louisville, KY, and we’ve been married almost 8 years and together for 10! Paul is allergic to the main ingredient in Zyrtec, but this is his first experience with severe food allergies.
How did you meet: A mutual friend. Well, the full story is very long and goofy, but I’ll share a little. My best friend, Laura, wanted to talk to someone she was interested in out at a bar and so she asked me to go over with her to keep the conversation flowing, and the person she was interested was with my now husband, so him and I began talking while my friend talked to his friend.
When did you first tell your partner about your allergies: Before our first date.
How did you first tell your partner about your allergies: I let him know when he asked me out on a date that I had an anaphylactic peanut allergy and only ate out at restaurants where I felt comfortable and had spoken to the chef and determined no peanut ingredients were being used in the kitchen. He was very understanding and let me pick the restaurant, which it turned out, was one he really loved going to already.
Did you ask your significant other to avoid your allergens: I asked him not to eat my allergens on days we’re going to see each other
What’s one of the nicest things your S.O. does to support you living with food allergies: I asked him not to eat peanut ingredients on days leading up to us seeing one another, but even with his favorite cuisines using peanuts and his favorite candy being Reese’s, he immediately decided he would cut it out of his diet and not eat peanut products.
Favorite Date Night Restaurant: We love going to The Post in Louisville for pizza!
Describe your partner in 3 words: Kind, generous, and talented
What’s your significant other’s best tip for dating someone with allergies: I’m guessing here, but I’d imagine he would say to let the person with the allergy set boundaries they’re comfortable with and then respect those boundaries.
Where to find Zoë: Spokin: @zoeslaughter, Insta: @invisiblyallergic
